In yoga class, I teach that your body goes where your eyes focus, so always look where you want your pose to go. In life, it’s the same.
People often feel great anxiety as they say, “I’ve wanted this for as long as I can remember…why hasn’t it happened yet? Hey, Universe…where’s my stuff?”
In my favorite, So-Simple-But-Still-I Have-To-ReRead-It-Everyday inspirational book, Ask and It Is Given, Abraham-Hicks says the ONLY reason you don’t have exactly what you want is because you don’t know that every subject is really TWO subjects: what you want, and the lack of it. The side you’re focused upon is what you get. So – where’s your focus? Relief, and anxiety. Hint: Look at your life - it’s a perfect reflection of what you’ve been focusing on. No exceptions.
Now – what are you going to do about it?
How often do you hear people say they want to be healthy, as they’re complaining about their irritable bowel syndrome (in way too much detail…)? Relief, or anxiety?
Students come to my hot yoga studio and, after laying their mats perfectly in the warm, relaxing hot yoga room and fluffing white towels over their mats like soft beds, they come out into the cold reception room and complain about their ailments. Focus: anxiety.
All the while, there’s this warm, cushy spot, right behind the door, to lie down, surrender and melt into bliss…relief is waiting and you’re missing it!
At best, they’re venting before they willingly deposit their aches and pains outside the hot yoga room.
I am eternally hopeful.
At worst, they’re reinforcing their beliefs in their illnesses and emphasizing the anxiety that probably created the illness in the first place.
After 90 minutes of hot yoga, one of two things happens: if you follow the highly detailed hot yoga class instructions, designed to fully occupy your mind with Warrior-type YES I CAN DO THIS! thoughts, your old limiting beliefs go up in smoke (and sweat), and hot yoga becomes your magic place of healing and balance.
You come out of class feeling your pain even more. (“See, I told you I was too ill /old/overweight/inflexible for this hot yoga thing!”)
There is Option 3: you feel GREAT relief after class…but soon enough your old anxiety reappears and alongside it, the old ailment. Maybe it pops up on the ride home from hot yoga. Maybe it’s right there with you in the hot yoga reception room. And so you blame hot yoga for tricking you into thinking you were all better.
It’s all you. Always has been.
Maybe it’s not so easy to choose relief when anxiety is every present; but I think it’s just that you didn’t know you had a choice. You can CHOOSE to feel just a little bit better than the anxiety and lift your focus upward one tiny bit – and before you know it, your whole self comes along for the lift.
You say you want more money in your life. But instead, you talk about how little money you have. The unpaid bills. The Choos you want but can’t afford. You’re focused on the opposite of what you say you want…and then, you get what you’re focused on.
How can you choose relief when you’re in the midst of anxiety? When you become sensitive to the way you feel, you can shift your focus to what is wanted. You can become an expert at knowing where you are focused by practicing the art of What Feels Better (stay tuned for my next blog post).
And a little hot yoga wouldn’t hurt either.